Blending families can be a challenging task, especially when custody arrangements are involved.
All parents involved must carefully prepare and work together to manage a blended family.
Recently, a father had an argument with his wife because she wanted him to give up raising their young children during weekend care. His husband just had a baby.
On Reddit, he questioned whether his actions were wrong. He wrote: “I have four children from previous relationships and my wife has one.” “He has sole custody of his son, but I have two children here full-time, the other two come here on weekends.
My wife gave birth on Wednesday and was released from the hospital on Thursday. I tried, together with the children, to make the house as calm and peaceful as possible for her.
She asked him not to bring his children here because she thinks it would be “too much”. He said: “She begged me not to pick up my youngest children on Friday because she feels the house is already so chaotic with three children and five is too much.”
“I told her it wasn’t possible, and she knows it. Custody doesn’t work like that. Besides, how would it affect my kids? She said since she just gave birth, her feelings matter. We have to come.” with a different plan because I promised my kids I wouldn’t let them down.
She took a nap when he left to pick up his children. “My wife slept on Friday when it was time for me to raise all the children. The dad added: “I told my eldest (he’s 19) to hold the baby until I got back because I didn’t want to wake up. her.
“My oldest child and my wife were screaming at each other when I came back with all the kids. The best I can say is she woke up and went looking for me, my son informed her of my whereabouts, and she told me I was a stupid bastard. ” my child was a terrible witch, and then they started yelling at each other.
She started yelling at her husband after first yelling at his teenager. The original poster (OP) stated, “I got the kids to go outside for a while while I chatted with my wife.” She claimed I was an incredibly selfish jerk who wasn’t even willing to offer her a weekend off.
She said that if I had not insisted on raising my younger children, nothing would have happened. She claimed she wanted my oldest to leave but I rejected the idea.
In response, the mother locked herself in the room. The mother had had enough after the father declared that he did not want any of his children to leave.
She had our room locked. She is tired and I understand that labor is harder than I can imagine, but I don’t feel like I can do what she asked for. Was it wrong of me to insist on getting my children?
Many Reddit users assured the father that he was not at fault. While many users acknowledged that the woman, in this case, had recently given birth, many were forced to support the father and his children.
“I understand that she just gave birth and that she is exhausted and overwhelmed,” one person said. But she doesn’t have the freedom to pick and choose when you parent ANY of your children, and especially not so you can place more importance on her adulthood.
Dad set a good example for his children, according to Internet users. What message would these two young children get if you left them as soon as a new baby entered the house when another user was inserted? You made the right decision here.
However, other commenters believe that Dad could have prepared more effectively. “Honestly, I understand your partner. As I try to heal and adjust to the routine of a newborn, I can’t think of anything worse than living in a house THAT crowded.”
managing a blended family requires planning and cooperation from all parents involved. While it is important to prioritize the needs of the newborn and its mother, this should not come at the expense of neglecting other babies. The father in this scenario made the right decision to pick up his children and be there for them. However, in future situations, it would be beneficial for parents to plan better and find compromises that work for everyone involved. They can thus create a harmonious and happy family environment for everyone.