“Building a family legacy with them is another thing entirely.” I had told my mother, plainly, that Sabine was the only woman I would ever want to build a family with.

And a few months after that, I traveled abroad for three weeks to oversee a hotel opening, and when I came home to Chicago, Sabine’s apartment was empty.

Her phone was disconnected.

My texts went undelivered; my letters came back unopened.

My mother told me, with every appearance of sympathy, that Sabine had begged us not to look for her — that she had chosen to go.

And I, wounded and proud and thirty-eight years old, believed her, and stopped searching.