That is not what I mean, and it is the opposite of what I learned.

I am not asking anyone to stop trusting.

Trust is one of the best things human beings do; it is what lets us lean on each other when we cannot stand alone, and a grieving person needs to be able to lean, needs desperately to be able to hand some of the weight to someone who knows the way.

I would never take that from anyone.

What I am asking for is not less trust.