Mom answered:

“Because both of you survive without water and hurt people who grab you carelessly.”

Chayo laughed for five straight minutes.

Raul and I stayed married.

I say that without pretending staying was automatically the better moral ending.

If he had continued defending what he did, I would have left.

If he had treated therapy like punishment, maybe I would have left.

If he had apologized only because he feared losing me and then returned to the same behavior, staying would have become self-deception.