Revisiting my own past without turning it into revenge.

Learning that privacy and secrecy are not the same.

Understanding that a person can give you real happiness and still be wrong for you.

And realizing that protecting someone does not mean protecting them from every painful fact.

Sometimes protection means:

I trust you enough to tell you something difficult and stay beside you while you decide what it means.

If I could speak to Sarah before she opened the door for Julian that first night, I would not warn her away from dating.