What could I pay off?

What did I actually need?

How much should remain untouched while I figured out where to live and work?

How much could go to the Lantern House in stages so its leaders were not left dependent on one person’s mood?

That last question changed everything.

I proposed a restricted grant administered through an established charitable fund, with regular reports and independent oversight.

The money would support services the center’s families had identified, not a monument to the donor.