I did not list the times Dad had disappointed me or repeat the details of the wedding.

I said that I loved my family but would not apologize for accepting Frank’s offer after Dad withdrew his promise.

I added that I needed time and would speak when everyone could discuss what had actually happened without blaming me for the reactions of other people.

Mom responded within seconds.

So we’re not allowed to have feelings now?

I left it unanswered.

That was harder than writing the message.