That’s the wrong frame and I’d like you not to leave here with it.

“There isn’t a ‘whose fault’ in this.

There are two sets of numbers and a probability, and yours is one of the numbers, and hers was fine, and the honest answer is that you were a couple who were taking longer than average and nobody could have told you why with certainty.

“What I can tell you with certainty is this.

If you had taken this test in 2013, nobody could have stood in a kitchen and said the problem was your wife.

That’s what a test does.

It doesn’t fix anything.

It just makes it impossible to put the whole thing on one person.”

I sat in the parking garage for about half an hour.

Here is the arithmetic, which I have done many times and which does not improve.