Please come yourself.

Because if I had called her at four in the morning, I would have shouted for eleven minutes and she would have cried, and in about a week we would have arrived, by a route I could have predicted exactly, at a place where I had been unfair to her and she had been under enormous strain and we would both agree to move forward.

I have seen my mother do that to my father a hundred times and to me for thirty years.

So instead I opened a notebook from the hotel desk and I wrote down, in order, every question I actually needed the answer to.