“I remember that day,” Ruth said.

“We had driven there twice before because the placement kept getting postponed.

On the third visit Celia told us not to ask questions about the birth mother.

She said asking could upset a fragile arrangement.”

“Did that strike you as strange?”

“It did.

But I was so afraid someone would decide we weren’t good enough to be parents.

I convinced myself that trusting the process was the kind thing.”