I did not want to conduct a public campaign or reveal private details about Harper.

I sent one brief response to those who needed it: the matter was being investigated, Harper was receiving care, and I would not discuss her medical information.

Then I stopped answering questions that were really requests for reassurance about Carter.

The pressure arrived in quieter ways as well.

Our joint credit card stopped working when I tried to pay for groceries.

A notice came from a bank account I hadn’t used in months.