He started missing dinners, because Eleanor needed help assembling furniture.

He left Leo’s school play at the intermission, because Sienna had a fever.

He asked me — and I did it, God help me, I did it — to add Eleanor to the class parent groups, and to make sure she felt welcome, and to help her find her footing among the other mothers.

On the morning of the farm trip, Julian sent me a single text message.

I have kept it.

It said: Keep an eye on Sienna today.