And now the part that people cannot stand, and that I need in this account more than anything else in it.

We share custody of our son.

Fifty-fifty.

Week on, week off, since he was three.

Joint legal custody, which means we decide together on schools and medicine and everything else.

I did not fight it.

I want to explain that, because when I say it out loud at a certain kind of dinner table there is always a silence and then somebody says but after what he did.

Here is what Hallie Strand said to me in the February, and it is correct, and I have repeated it to four people since.