She left that health system in 2023 and works at a children’s hospital in Minneapolis and is doing a master’s, and she has a daughter of her own who was born in 2024.

I had planned about four hundred words of thank you and I got out maybe forty of them before I stopped being able to.

And Bernadette Kaur sat across a table and said something that I had not prepared for at all.

She said: “Can I go first?

Because I’ve been thinking about how to say this since your letter and if I don’t do it now I’ll lose it.

“I’ve thought about you for four years and I don’t think I did enough.”