He has the fourth in odd years.

I have it in even years.

On his years I do nothing on that day and he does whatever he does, which I have never asked about and never will.

On mine, he does not contact me at all.

What I do on my years is this.

I take the day off.

I have done since the second one and I have a very understanding department head who has never once asked me why.

I go to the cemetery in the morning.