She said: “You have described four months of deception and you keep using the word ‘lying.’

“I want to offer you a different word, which is surviving. You had one piece of information and no context for it, and you were living with the only person who had the context, and you correctly assessed that if you revealed what you had, you would lose access to the truth permanently.

“Thea, you were not deceiving your husband.

You were preserving evidence in a house you were living in.”