Because you cannot do a private kindness for somebody in the naming of their own child and then not tell them for four years.

The kindness requires a recipient.

A man alone in a NICU deciding something generous about a woman one floor below, and then never mentioning it, is not an act of love.

It is a man having a moment about himself.

There are two birth certificates.

They are in a folder in my house and I got them from Vital Records in the August for twenty dollars each.

My name is on both of them, in the section for the mother, printed by a clerk.