I need to talk to you about something serious and it isn’t an emergency and nobody’s ill.

That last clause was Dr.

Adisa’s and it is a good one.

A man who walks in already frightened will start defending before he knows what he is defending against.

I did not have the boxes out.

I had one folder on the table, closed.

And I did not start with an accusation.

This was the hardest part and I rehearsed it eleven times in a car.