That is the one I did not expect to be giving as advice.

I wrote eleven questions on a phone on a Sunday afternoon and asked none of them, and that note is now an exhibit, and it is the single most useful document I produced in three years, and I produced it by accident.

Not because it proved anything.

Because when I read it back on the Thursday I could see, in my own words, from before I knew anything, exactly what I had already suspected and had talked myself out of.

If you find yourself constructing a reason not to ask a question, write the question down with the date on it.