Mine were simple.

I would ask before assuming.

I would tell her when I was afraid.

And I would not let employees, relatives, or friends decide what our relationship meant without speaking to her first.

Meredith wrote that she would stop treating silence as a final answer.

She would ask for what she needed instead of hoping I might notice.

And she would make room for love to be imperfect without making every disagreement feel like a warning of abandonment.

We traded papers.