It creates entitlement.

And entitlement, left to grow long enough, will eventually lock you out of your own home in the rain.

I gave for years.

They took it as their due.

The lesson was not to stop giving.

It was to stop giving to people who cannot tell a gift from a right.

I hold onto that distinction carefully, because the wrong lesson was available, and it was tempting, and I have watched it ruin people.

The wrong lesson — the easy, bitter one — is to conclude that generosity itself is the mistake, that being open-handed makes you a mark, that the way to be safe in the world is to give nothing and trust no one and hold everything close.