He Flew His Family to Miami to Celebrate Taking My Estate — He Never Read the Deed With My Name Alone On It
It creates entitlement.
And entitlement, left to grow long enough, will eventually lock you out of your own home in the rain.
I gave for years.
They took it as their due.
The lesson was not to stop giving.
It was to stop giving to people who cannot tell a gift from a right.
I hold onto that distinction carefully, because the wrong lesson was available, and it was tempting, and I have watched it ruin people.
The wrong lesson — the easy, bitter one — is to conclude that generosity itself is the mistake, that being open-handed makes you a mark, that the way to be safe in the world is to give nothing and trust no one and hold everything close.