I have been asked, since, whether I wanted to say something — whether some part of me wanted to scream at him, to make him understand, to land even one blow of my own after everything he’d done.

And the honest answer is no, and it surprised me too.

There was a version of me that might have wanted that, a younger version, before the career, before I’d learned what actually costs a guilty man the most.

It is not your fury.

Your fury he can use; it casts him as the wronged party, the victim of a cold and vengeful wife, and men like Ronan are never more comfortable than when they can find a way to be the one who was hurt.

What costs them is your silence.