It is an old, poisonous idea, and it has been used against working mothers forever, and it is exactly backward.

Because it was not in spite of being a trauma nurse that I saved my daughters.

It was because of it.

Everything that made me good at my work — the steadiness under catastrophe, the refusal to panic, the cold precise competence in the worst moment, the trained instinct to assess and act rather than freeze and weep — was the exact thing that let me get my children out.

The skills are not in competition.