It was hard to know whether I was witnessing the beginning of accountability or the familiar wish to be forgiven quickly.

Elena asked what I wanted to do.

I told her I wanted an arrangement that could be sustained.

We could accept appropriate correspondence without telling the girls there would be a visit next week.

Any more significant changes would need to respect the custody orders, professional guidance, and the children’s needs.

We would not promise what Brenda had not demonstrated she could provide.