“I don’t want you both building your lives around guesses about mine,” she said.

I looked at Christopher.

“Neither do I.”

Then we discussed the trips.

If he was visiting family, he would call it visiting family.

If work was part of a journey, he would distinguish it.

We would plan the time together rather than allowing one vague label to cover every absence.

He agreed without saying I was asking for permission to monitor him.