I Had Barely Finished Holding My Son’s Newborn Baby When a Nurse Pulled Me Aside and Whispered, “That Isn’t the Child He Left With”

Sometimes I say:

“One living grandson.”

Sometimes:

“Three grandchildren.

Two died as newborns.”

Depends.

There is no morally required answer.

Remembering the dead does not require public disclosure every time someone asks a casual question.