“And I stopped offering because I didn’t want him to shut me out completely,” she admitted.

“I wish I’d found another way to show up for you.”

I told her she had shown up.

When I was fifteen, she had driven across town in the rain to bring me a birthday cake because Dad was working late.

I remembered the cake clearly because she had misspelled my name in blue frosting and we laughed until our stomachs hurt.

“I thought you’d forgotten,” she said.