I Survived Long Enough to Speak
For most of my recovery, my scars had belonged, in some sense, to Lars.
They were his handiwork, the mark he had left on me, and every time I covered them with a scarf or turned the scarred side away from a mirror, I was in a way agreeing that they were shameful, that they were his to have made and mine to hide.
My therapists had spent months, gently, teaching me a different relationship to my own skin.
And standing in that courtroom, I completed the lesson.
When I opened that jacket, I took the scars back.
I was not showing the room what Lars had done; I was showing the room that I was still here, standing, chin up, speaking — that the fire he’d used to erase me had failed, and that the proof of its failure was written right there on the body he thought he had ruined.