My goal was not to ruin Daniel.

My goal was to stop subsidizing a story in which I was expected to give without limits.

Helen suggested I write down my position before meeting with him again.

I drafted a letter stating that routine financial gifts were ending, that I was willing to discuss a reasonable repayment arrangement for the documented business loan, and that future communication should be respectful and preferably in writing when financial matters were involved.

She removed a few sentences that sounded angry rather than useful.