We did not make Derek responsible for every disagreement we had ever had.

But the pattern was clear enough to name.

He had taken existing distance and widened it.

He had made help from my mother seem like interference.

He had made Lily’s reluctance sound like disloyalty.

He had described himself as the only person who truly understood what I needed.

Isolation had not been an unfortunate side effect of dating him.

It had helped the plan.