That is the hard, unsentimental truth about ending this kind of harm: you rarely change the abuser’s heart, and you should not wait to.

You change the price.

You make the cost of the cruelty real, and personal, and larger than whatever the cruelty was buying him — and then, and only then, does a man who was never going to stop for any noble reason finally stop for the one reason he understands.

Arthur stopped because I made it expensive.

It is not a satisfying moral.

But it is the true one, and it freed a woman who thirty-two years of appeals to his conscience never could. Chapter 13 — The Lawful Fall