My Father Poured Wine on Me at My Sister’s Wedding to Humiliate Me — He Had No Idea Who My Husband Was
They needed a failure to measure themselves against.
They needed a bottom to their hierarchy.
And a person who needs you to be a certain way will not be moved by evidence that you are not, because the evidence threatens something they depend on.
That is why my scholarship, my honors, my career — all the proofs I kept presenting — bounced off them unheard.
I was offering facts to people who did not have a factual problem.
They had a need, and my smallness met it, and no amount of contrary evidence could dislodge a belief that was doing that much work for them.