My Husband Destroyed the Kitchen Camera Before the Police Arrived — He Never Knew My Late Father Had Built It to Keep a Copy

He made sure there was always a copy.

And I have made it my work, since, to pass that lesson on, because I have come to believe it is the single most important thing an ordinary person can be taught, and almost no one is taught it.

We tell people, especially women, to trust — to trust their partners, to keep the peace, to not be paranoid, to not keep secrets from the people who love them, to hand over their passwords and their finances and their whole undefended selves as proof of intimacy.

And for the lucky ones, in safe relationships, that trust is repaid, and everything is fine.