My husband files for divorce, and my 6-year old son asks the judge: ‘May I show you something that Mom doesn’t know about, Your Honor?’ The judge nodded. When the video started, the entire courtroom froze in silence.
I did not ask him to read it in front of me.
He opened it at his desk, put it down, then went outside to ride his bike.
When he came back, he asked if we could bake cookies.
I understood that he was making his own space for a complicated relationship, with support from adults who were supposed to keep him safe.
Our new routines were quiet.
Monday was library day.
Wednesday was spaghetti night.