My husband files for divorce, and my 6-year old son asks the judge: ‘May I show you something that Mom doesn’t know about, Your Honor?’ The judge nodded. When the video started, the entire courtroom froze in silence.

I recognized that distinction as important.

An improperly handled file could become another argument over process rather than content.

I gave her the name of the neutral examiner from the hearing and told her to have her lawyer contact the appropriate authorities.

That evening I called Dana, who told me to write down the conversation while it was fresh.

I did.

Every question, every answer, every uncertainty.

I left out adjectives.