After I lost a pregnancy, he urged me to leave my purchasing-analyst job.

At first, he spoke about rest.

Later, he complained that my projects competed with his schedule.

I continued doing consulting from home.

He told other people he supported me, as though my work happened only because he permitted it.

Since the twenty-week appointment, his interest in our baby had narrowed to whether anyone could be mistaken about the sex.

He made jokes about the expense of raising a daughter, then called me sensitive when I did not laugh.

What he had not learned was that the pregnancy he barely asked about involved two babies.