The court would consider the relevant financial information and lawful factors.

I did not assume his former salary would answer every future calculation, and I did not agree that losing his job made our children’s costs disappear.

The separate processes continued at their own pace.

When Dana asked how I was managing, I told her I was tired of being sensible.

“That doesn’t mean you’re failing,” she said.

“I know.

I just want to be tired without anybody turning it into evidence that I can’t do this.”

She listened.