So I booked the flights out of Chicago.

I reserved five oceanfront suites.

I paid for the private transfers and the massages and the sunset dinners and the beachfront breakfasts and a premium professional photography package that Eleanor, my mother-in-law, had demanded, because — as she put it — a respectable family needs elegant memories.

And when Julian told me his annual bonus had been delayed and he couldn’t cover his share, I did not argue, or sigh, or ask a single question.

I pulled out my personal card and I covered the entire thirty-five-thousand-dollar bill, and I did it gladly, and that gladness is the part I have had to sit with since.