My Husband Said If I Were “Easier to Love” His Family Wouldn’t Have to Fake It – He Meant to Break Me, But He Had No Idea He’d Just Handed Me the One Thing I’d Needed for Five Years

It is simply what grew in the ground once I stopped pouring everything I had into soil that would never bear fruit.

That is the thing I most want anyone in my old position to understand.

For five years I experienced my situation as a scarcity — never enough love, never enough acceptance, never enough of me to satisfy them — and I responded to the scarcity by giving more, and more, and more, as though the problem were a shortfall I could make up with sufficient generosity.

But it was never scarcity.