We documented the requests for him and Brenda to leave, addressed his claimed right to remain during the separation, and sought appropriate court orders.

It was slower than the dramatic confrontations I had imagined during sleepless nights.

It was also safer.

Chloe came with me when I met my separate family-law attorney.

She brought the red folder and a pen that actually worked.

My lawyer examined the records of Gavin’s threats and injuries, the photographs, and the medical documentation.

She did not promise a particular outcome.

She explained options for a protective order, divorce proceedings, and arrangements for retrieving personal property.