Afterward we went to a diner.

He ordered soup and a grilled cheese, then reached for his own wallet.

“I’ll get it,” I said without thinking.

He shot me a hurt look, and I realized I had copied one of Joanne’s habits without meaning to.

“Okay,” I said, tucking my card away.

“You can pay for lunch.

I’ll get the next one.”

He pulled out a few bills with the satisfaction of a man finally allowed to take part in his own life.