He could be gentle.

He could be conscientious.

That made his refusal to examine what his mother was doing more painful, not less.

I was not married to a man incapable of care.

I was married to one who kept placing his mother’s comfort ahead of questions that frightened me.

Later, Karen wrote her own account.

She identified the requests, her response, and what she believed when she sent the images.

I told her she could consult her own adviser if she was concerned about the implications, and that nobody should dictate her statement.