Then he’d show me how to identify a loose bracket or check whether a screw had stripped the wood.

Sometimes he let me finish.

Sometimes he took the tool away because I was about to make the problem worse.

He could be impatient.

But he never suggested I was incapable of learning.

That distinction mattered to me more as I grew older.

Richard often spoke as though my uncertainty proved I shouldn’t make decisions.

Arthur treated uncertainty as a reason to ask another question.