My Son Was Told to Keep a Secret So His Father Could Betray Us — I Made Sure He Never Had to Carry It Again
He would simply never again be a tool in his father’s hands.
Those were different things, and I built the entire custody arrangement around the difference.
And I want to dwell on that distinction, because I think it is the hardest and most important thing a wronged parent has to hold onto in a divorce, and the thing the anger works hardest to erase.
When someone betrays you as completely as Solomon betrayed me, every instinct screams to take everything from them, and a child is the most powerful thing there is to take.
I felt that pull.