My Son Was Told to Keep a Secret So His Father Could Betray Us — I Made Sure He Never Had to Carry It Again
But he has it now, for life.
And I think, in the strange arithmetic of hard things, that the single most valuable thing to come out of the worst period of our lives was that a five-year-old learned, and will never unlearn, that no love and no fear can ever obligate him to keep a secret that hurts.
He is safer now than he was before any of it happened.
That is not nothing.