I could ask someone to pick up diapers without feeling indebted.

I could be tired in front of another adult without fear he would use it against me.

I could let Leila take Oliver for a walk and sleep for an hour.

Warren offered to establish an education trust for Oliver.

I thanked him and took the proposal to an independent attorney before agreeing to its terms.

When I mentioned this, he seemed pleased rather than insulted.

“That’s what you should do,” he said.