I set a metal grater in a glass bowl and started shredding the block, keeping the pieces even.

The steady motion of the blade cutting through the cheese felt grounding.

I measured exactly two tablespoons of butter and half a cup of whole milk into a glass measuring cup.

“Can I stir?” Lily asked.

I brought the bowl over to the island and handed her a wooden spoon.

“Stir slowly,” I said.

“Keep it in the bowl.”

She mixed the grated cheese in careful circles.