I had the transfer form.”

And I said, “Why didn’t you tell me why?”

And Daniela said: “Because you said we’re a family and then the waitress came.

“And I was seventeen, Dad.

I got one go at it.

I’d been working on how to say it for about two months and I said it badly and you answered the bad version, and then there wasn’t another chance because the whole thing only existed in that one minute.”

I pulled into a parking lot off Thunderbird to do the rest of that conversation and I have never told anybody what either of us said in it.