And that mundanity is the triumph.

For six months, our mornings had been anything but ordinary: they had been battles I fought alone, a wife careening between two crying babies while a husband got ready for his day untouched by any of it.

What I fought for, through the suit and the folder and the contract, was to make the extraordinary injustice of those mornings into the ordinary fairness of this one.

I did not want a husband who loved me operatically and helped me occasionally, in bursts of guilty generosity.