My mother found out in 1991 and did not leave, and instead did what she does, which is manage.

There was an arrangement.

There were payments — not enormous ones, and not through a court, and not with any acknowledgment of anything — and they ran until Theo was eighteen, and then they stopped, and that was the whole of it.

My father never met him.

Not once.

That is established from both sides and it is the thing I find least bearable.

Denise Fogarty died in 2019.